Alright, so I realize that I’m publishing two posts one right after the other, but I wanted to get this stuff “out there” while it was fresh on my mind, without making one post too terribly long. So, if you haven’t read the previous post, go back and do that before reading any further.
Last time I promised a couple of strategies for overcoming yourself in order to accomplish whatever it is you would like to accomplish in life. I’d like to begin by referring to Sun Tzu’s “The Art of War”, an ancient Chinese military strategy manual (often taught in business schools). Sun Tzu says that in order to be successful in battle, one must know himself and know his enemy. Now, like I said previously, you are your own worst enemy. Therefore, this statement can be summed up as “Know yourself”. This requires knowing your strengths and weaknesses. So first, I want you to take a piece of paper and a pen, sit down, and write down what it is exactly that you would like to accomplish. Maybe it is a life goal, like finding someone who you could spend the rest of your life with, or maybe it is a dream that you have had since childhood. Whatever it is, write it down, then spend some time thinking about what qualities you have that would allow you to accomplish that goal, and what you may need to work on. Maybe, guys, you are looking for a long-term relationship, and feel like you would be a good leader and provider in that relationship, but you aren’t very good at approaching women, and don’t know that many women in the first place.
The next step is to identify what would need to happen in order to make up for your weaknesses. In this example, maybe you need to expand your social circle and develop more confidence. Finally, you need to break down those things that need to happen into manageable, achievable goals that you can accomplish in the short-term. So, by such and such a date, I will do this and this to meet more people, and will read these articles/books etc. on building confidence, in order to reach my long-term goal of meeting someone I can share a long-term relationship with. Now, your final step is to translate all of this into a vision and mission statement. I don’t have the room to go into detail about these here, but basically your vision statement will say where you want to be (be specific in writing out how you picture this dream being fulfilled) while your mission statement will say how you plan on getting there. This will give you a simple, manageable plan for achieving your dreams and overcoming yourself.